So, do you ever know what you want to say, but not quite how to say it? That's my problem today. If I was to just spit it out, I'd say "my supervisor is a boob". Basically - that covers it. Not very nice, not PC at all, but... truth hurts sometimes.
Including me, there are four women who work for him. Without getting technical (because our work really is very technical), I'll just say we encountered an issue today involving two computer systems not communicating and were brainstorming in one woman's office about how to: a) quickly resolve the situation so we could proceed with what we needed to do, and b) identify a long-term solution so we could present it to our supervisor. The four of us were being pretty vocal about our points of view, but it was going well and we were making progress, including making a couple of calls on the speakerphone to talk to some technical people about the process. Eventually, we got everything worked out and went back to our work areas.
Even though he brags to other team leaders about how "his team" is self-directed and he never has to tell us what to do, it must not have entered his mind that we could problem-solve on our own. He just had to go talk to one of the other women and make a snarky comment about how "we ought to be more careful about having a hen-party during working hours". WTF? You thought we were playing??? Totally uncalled-for. We never do that, not to mention the fact that we come in early, work through breaks, stay late, cover each other's jobs (all of our jobs are unique - its not like all 4 of us do the same thing), and between the four of us we have 28 years, 21 years, 19 years, and 16 years of experience in this very department... so we do have the skills and knowledge to figure out how to fix a problem.
And don't get me started about the sexist "hen party" remark.
He got straightened out pretty quick by the lady he made that remark to, but it was overheard by a couple other people, so he ended up embarrassed and avoided us for the remainder of the day.
Even though I was irked about his lack of confidence in us, I'm not mentioning it again. Actions speak louder than words.
I baked a chocolate cake tonight, and I'm taking it to work tomorrow. Maybe that will soothe some feelings. The piece I ate for supper made me feel pretty good! :)